Bondage, Shibari and Kinbaku: What’s the Difference?
Do you want to spice up an ordinary sex life, diversify pleasures and deepen bonds with your partner? One of these three practices, different in origin but similar in execution, could then seduce you!
Shibari, what is that?
Whatever your gender or sexual orientation, Shibari can suit and be enjoyed by everyone! What could be better than being seduced by this practice with distant origins?
Shibari has its origins in Japanese and means “to tie” or “to bind”, in short, the pleasure of being tied up or tying up your partner! Originally it comes from “hojōjutsu”, a martial art that consisted of tying up prisoners in order to torture them. This practice later evolved for meditation or relaxation purposes. Nowadays, the Shibari is based more on aesthetics and the erotic artistic realm than on its functions.
It is practiced by restricting the body’s movements with ropes, most often made of silk, to create complex physical and mental connections based on trust between the two partners. It allows you to discover new facets of your sex life, discovering the pleasure of giving yourself completely to the other. Since Shibari is based on the spiritual bonds and trust that the rope maker places in their rope maker, practice and experimentation can strengthen bonds and lead to intense erotic play!
bondage, what is it?
The letter B in the famous BDSM acronym equals bondage. Like shibari, bondage is also the act of restraining a person’s body with shackles. But absent Shibari, which only uses rope, the material used to fasten it in bondage can vary. We will then see the use of handcuffs, scarves, glue, ties, leather…
American bondage arose from the American occupation of Japan from 1945 to 1952. So it derives from Shibari from the land of the rising sun, but in the absence of what is essentially based on the artistic side and the strong connection between the two involved, bondage becomes only for pure used for sexual purposes. The rigger and attache then experience sexual arousal in the control, restriction of movement, and created state of vulnerability. This practice is once again based entirely on the trust granted and leads to very intense intimate sessions!
What is kinbaku?
A sub-branch of shibari and bondage, kinbaku is a traditional Japanese practice that also consists of tying up the other. In the absence of Shibari, which relies on the aesthetics and beauty of knots without systematically eroticizing the individual, sexualization is pervasive at Kinbaku. The principle then is to eroticize and enjoy suffering through very close and binding attachments. The connection between the partners is then very important, because the desire and excitement increases over time.
Attention : As previously explained, these three practices can increase and reinforce the bond and connection between the couple during sex, which is exhilarating. But be careful to educate yourself well before putting them into practice in bed because certain restraints, if tied poorly or in the wrong places, can be dangerous and cause injury to the person roped up… A good dose Theory before practice is therefore strongly recommended in order not to endanger your partner!
Also read: 6 good reasons to try BDSM
